I want to write a little review here today, about one of the best TV shows I’ve ever watched… White collar! I’m sure you either watched it or heard about it.. I mean I would never be able to watch it on TV thank God for Netflix!I can’t really watch any TV show on TV you think I’m going to wait a week in between each episode when I could just watch a whole season at one time. White collar is the best TV show ever yet. Besides the fact that it’s not that much about murder and nudity, it really educates you what goes on in the FBI back offices. The tactics they use in the theories they come up with to be able to close 97% of the cases that pass through their office is really incredible. I truly believe I got smarter from watching it. Matt Bomer is the best actor I have ever seen his personality and display of emotions make a great combination to co play the main part of white collar…

The only things I have against them is that they kept me up many nights we past 3 with my eyes glued to the screen because the episode ended it at the best part.

Matt Bomer known in white collar as Neal Caffrey is a guy that can do everything any type of forgery whether it is bonds, cash, signatures, alcohol, paintings…..he’s the man. The best part that I liked about it was the fact that he was the best con man around and never carries a gun…that’s class! And whoever recruited Mozzy into the cast, was really a genius, he is the funniest guy I have ever seen yet.

Unlike other TV shows there was a series of suspenses that played out for the perfect amount of time, not too long, not too short. The first season or two was finding his girlfriend Kate, then the music box and then finding his father only knowing that he was working with him the whole time!

Tim DeKay plays as Agent Peter Burke. He does a phenomenal job! Its annoying how he was always right! And his working theories were right on the mark.

I know they are just actors but someone had to have make that up..

One of the things that I really like about what color is the fact that it involved everyone’s personal life at some point for a little bit (besides Mozzey of course, I don’t think the guy had a personal life…)

I was also impressed with the fact that they had a woman FBI agent-Diana who intimidated even the irish mob….. The only person that got to her was that woman, I forgot her name but she had connections to the Mayor…she was able to tell a lot about everyone and was able to tell that Diana’s tattoo was from 5 years ago…..

When they had to do a stakeout, they covered up in a electric maintenance van from Edison Nj Electrician. I think that was really very creative…

Basically i think you white collar guys did a great job! And Matt Bomer if you are reading this hit me up on the bottom! Lets go for a drink! I could show you a few places in New York that you haven’t seen or filmed in…



I just got a new I MAC. I’m really excited about it, its a nice change from pc which i was using till now…

For 2 months i was dreaming about it and finally purchased it yesterday! My experience in the Apple store was really egoistic. Everybody looking at iPods, iPhones and iPads and i go to the start up station with an 1,100 dollar I Mac..I walk out the door through Roosevelt Field Mall carrying a huge box with the computer plastered all over it. I mean it’s not very often that you get to show off with out showing that your trying to show off. Get what i mean? There is just no bag that big that can hold a 22 inch iMac with the casing, what do you want me to do??

My first day working on it was cool. Ya know enjoying the mac features and the quick processor…How long do you think i will enjoy it for? Probably another week or two! And after…And after, it becomes a necessity that I don’t even enjoy! Get the trick my mind is playing with me? It fantasies about a sleek looking Apple computer for 2 months, convinces you to buy it, you enjoy it long enough to confirm that it was worth the money spent and after its just a regular computer! But! But you can’t give it up either, because your hooked! It is a much better computer i’m not gonna lie to you. Are you gonna enjoy it as much as your brain fantasied about before you bought it-No! If you knew how much you were gonna buy it before you put the 1100 bucks down you would never buy it! Now you can’t take that step down, you already set your standards!

I know a guy that seriously had just redone his roof. Had an excellent job done by these guys Brooklyn Roofers. A week later his neighbor across the street also was redoing his roof with an Italian style shingle also from Brooklyn Roofers. While he didn’t know that the roofing company builds “designer shingles” in the first place. he called them back up a few weeks later and redid his roof! Crazy! Check these amazing Roofers out on Google Plus.

All materialism is like this my friend…Your never gonna enjoy it the way you fantasied about. It just gets you stuck in a standard. In many cases its a stepping stool for the next level. For example: When you drive a civic you think that a jeep is the car of your dreams, you can’t even see as far as an Infinity or Acura..You climb the latter one step up you think that Lexus is the car of your dreams. You get then Lexus you see Maserati. You get Maserati then Lambo finally appears on the radar..Understand what I’m sayin?

Materialism is a very slippery web that is easy to slide into. The rule “the way you got in is the way your gonna come out” doesn’t apply with materialism…I drive a civic now and live in a tiny one bedroom apartment with my wife. I’m dying to move just to have more room. Around me everything is very expensive i can’t afford to pay 1600 bucks for a 2 bedroom 1920 apartment. I just want space! i can’t move in my apartment nor in my compact car…What happens if i move in to a bigger house in a cheaper neighborhood? It’s not just gonna be a matter of space anymore? The saying “it all starts from the door mat” is a real saying! Im the biggest victim of it!

But i was thinking to my self that on a superficial level marriage is like this too. You fall in love, get married and 6 months later the effectuation wares off. Isn’t marriage deeper than a materialistic relationship? If so why ware off? The answer is that what holds the relationship together aint the sexual love for each other. It is the true love that comes from a deeper place in your heart. You can only acquire that through working on the relationship with sacrificing for each other.The reason why god created the initial superficial attachment in the first place is to have a feeling of what it is gonna feel like if you work on your marriage and get there.

Please leave your comments below. I will be happy to help anybody in need…



Just a little introduction on Rabbi Twersky. He is a world renown rabbi/psychologist. He put out a bunch of books worth reading. Here is his wikipedia page http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Abraham_J._Twerski its worth reading up about him!

Hello, my name is Chuck Rapps. I’m reaching out to you because I need advice from someone like you that is experience in the matter for so many years.
I am 21 and I’m married for about half a year by now bH I learned in a good yeshiva till I got married and currently in kollel. Both my wife and I share similar goals. Growing up in the generation that we did, with drugs becoming more accessible just led to more people abusing it. I witnessed many of my close friends and some family members turn to such substances and therefore it has always been my dream to work with these young adults and help them come clean and even eventually open my own religious program. My wife witnessed family members first hand turn to these substances as well.

I didn’t start any schooling yet and I’m reaching out to you now before I start working towards my goal because I want to make sure that I will be successful in the field. Also, I would like to know where to begin my schooling. I am aware that many of the programs are run by users themselves that became clean. I on the other hand never was a user. My wife however, does understand a little more, being that she did go through it with some of her siblings. Is it a necessary tool to have been a user, to really understand the addiction in order to help them come clean?

I recently visited my brother in law in Los Angeles, he’s in the program run by Chabad and I was surprised to see that most of the guys finished the program with out becoming religious. It shocked me that a program that is run by frum people for kids mostly coming from religious families didn’t began to try to encourage any religious aspects as part of the recovery. I even researched it and saw that the head of the program wrote in an article that the main thing they focus on is to get them clean from these substances and it would be nice if they return to religion. Now this shocked me because it’s very nice that they made the person into a functioning human being but what about his religion? Also, isn’t the 12 steps all about spirituality? Doesn’t that mean that a fundamental part of coming clean is returning to religion?
Another thing I noticed on my trip to the Los Angeles rehab was that there was no pool, gym, sports or even basketball court on campus. The boys had lots of free time just to smoke and do nothing. Does rehab have to mean that your trapped in for 6 months? Is it a contradiction to the healing process to have fun activities or even learning trades? What’s wrong with a rehab that’s actually enjoyable? Wouldn’t that mean reducing the rate of people signing themselves out? (besides the fact they needed their roof to be done desperately, when i was there i suggested them a cheap reliable company and i think they even used him! Wow i should get commission from the roofer!

Another thing that disturbs me is that they work on removing addictions as strong as heroin but they still walk out heavy smokers. I do understand that smoking cigarettes is not nearly as dangerous as drugs and one can function mostly normal on cigarettes however, its definitely not as safe as the addiction of caffeine. It definitely reduces the quality and quantity of life why can’t rehab conquer that feat too?

I would love to hear back from you. I know your a very busy person and I understand if you don’t respond but it would be really helpful if I can get my advice from someone like you. My email address is chaimtawa@gmail.com
My phone number is……

Thank you for your time,




Hey, I wanna talk about the lessons we can learn from the previous story…Truth is there are many, but there’s just one that I wanna bring out.

The story was about the lawyer that didn’t defend his client throughout the trial but at the end he came through with his master plan…Tell everybody that the girl is gonna walk in…make them have a reasonable doubt…now they can’t charge him..BRILLIANT! The only problem was that there was a 20 year old girl in the jury that caught on. She was looking at the expression of the accused to see if he believes in the plan the lawyer was laying out for him or was he just playing along to get of innocent.

Its amazing how people can tell you how special you are and how great you are. We can have great lawyers setting up great cases for us, but if you don’t believe it, it’s not gonna come through. Sometimes  people can see in you strength that you don’t see in yourself, they even believe that you can get through the tests, but if you don’t realize and believe it yourself your guilty.

In the book Tzidkas Hatzadik it says,  part of the commandment  of Emuna (complete faith in god) is to believe in yourself too!  Part of believing in a king  is that he has a nation! We have to believe that were an a slave to the greatest master! The more we believe in our selves the stronger our faith in god is. Its a commandment! And it’s part to the commandment of believing in god.

A person was created with free will meaning he was created to be self motivated! Of course he needs the right education and the right influences, but the end result is it’s up to him to internalize everything everybody is trying put into him just like the lawyer! And in the end all faults and credits are his because it was his decision.

The Jews by the “splitting of the sea were trapped on both sides. They were praying but god said stop praying jump right into the water! God didn’t want hear from them that they believed, he wanted them to show themselves that they believed! God wanted them to do an action that would prove themselves as “believers” because only through that you can have a “splitting of the sea”

Growing up in this generation  is very difficult for the kids growing up, and much more for the parents of the kids growing up. Its the parents job to always trust their child and believe in them that’s what’s gonna give them courage to believe in themselves to get through all the hardships of our generation. I know its hard kids never show their appreciation for your trust, but i promise you that they do think about it!

I remember one specific incident where my dad surprised me and  took me out in his tow truck! (I know it sounds weird but i always wanted to go!) We spoke for a while about all the above, and it made an impression on me that he was interested in my hardships too not just  telling me  don’t do this and don’t do that…Check out these pages to see where my dad provides service too…Hey, you never know! http://www.edisontowingservices.com/elizabeth-towing-services.html    http://www.edisontowingservices.com/newark-towing-services.html Or on Google plus https://plus.google.com/108886314200675379878/about

I believe that by default, children relate to their dads as a man who  disciplines …Always trying to hide your wrong doings from them and the truth is the dad is kinda outta breath from all of it..the worry about what is it gonna lead to next…They don’t have time to just stop and enjoy a couple of moments with their kid…Truth is, if you can forget about all the bad stuff for a moment, and actually go enjoy a couple of moments with him…Shot some hoops with him…Take him along when  you play golf….Take him out in a limo..do something that he enjoys…You think my dad gives a flip if he’s riding in a RAV 4 or a stretch Bugatti…

Children need their space for doing wrong…We all go through the trial error process, whether its in business or in school…That’s what makes you successful, makes you realize your weak points, makes you realize whats possible and impossible to do. Now what if i yell at you every time you make a left turn in business by mistake, that you don’t know what your doing..don’t you know its wrong…i tell this you every time..BLAH BLAH BLAH. We all learn better from our mistakes when we KNOW AND FEEL that its a mistake. Kids too would theoretically learn from their mistakes after they experience it…If not for the fact that you give him a yelling that makes him want to do the same thing again to rebel…

Get the point? if not message me on bottom!




Hey guys, Tsup!

I got a friend that is just starting out in law school. This friend told me a story that inspired me and possibly changed my life!!

In law school they seem to start out their first lesson with this story…There was a politician that was accused for murdering a 15 year old girl this politician was very successful and was thinking about running for president. This accusation was obviously gonna ruin his reputation, and a top notch lawyer was desperately needed. He went and hired the best lawyer outta New York city and offered him  a handsome pay.

The parents hired a prosecuting lawyer 22 years old fresh out of law school making the  politician smile knowing that this fresh men has no chance. What they didn’t know is that that it doesn’t only depend on the lawyer as you will see later on…

The day of the court case finally arrived and the politician arrived confident as if hes becoming president next year. The judge walks in and everybody stands up for him. They start the case and they place the witness up. The witness starts testifying that at 12:00 an June 26 he saw this politician kill the girl. The politicians lawyer starts asking her what company watch do you have? She answers Timex! He says how do you know your watch was running on time maybe your of the type that keeps it 5 minutes ahead? When was the last time you changed the battery? All kinds of questions were being asked about the witnesses stupid watch. The politician gets very upset and starts screaming at him. “This is what i pay you for? I hired you to cross examine the witness and your cross examining a stupid Timex watch?!

This case goes on for about a week and the politician  is getting really pissed off. All his lawyer was able to answer him was “Trust me I know what i’m doing”. Well indeed he did! The last day of the trial arrived, the judge gets up and says its time for submission, each party has to submit their final verdict. The young prosecuting lawyer gets up and he says “As the witness says this politician is guilty of killing a 15 year old girl! Cut her life short of a life that she could have lived…..! Now the judge points to the politicians lawyer and he tells him “the whole week you went off on a tangent about the watch i’m not sure what kind of game your playing here but if you don’t submit a final verdict your client is guilty!”

The lawyer gets up and tells everyone “your probably thinking that i’m the worst lawyer ever i don’t care about my client neither do i defend him. The reason why i didn’t defend my client is because hes not guilty! The girl is alive! She ran to Mexico away from her parents! We made contact with her and we flew her back shell be walking in through these doors in exactly one hour!”

The judge, the prosecuting lawyer and everybody else in the crowd were shaken how they almost killed an innocent man! The whole next hour everyone was looking at the door pacing the carpets. An hour came and went and no one walked in, an hour and a half and still no one now the judge really gets upset at the defending lawyer and says if you don’t do submission now i’m sending you to jail to for….

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The lawyer gets up and says “now i’m ready to do submission! We never made contact with the girl and could very well be that shes dead. However for the last hour and a half, everybody’s eyes were glued to the door expecting her to walk in. The law requires that in order to find someone guilty you have to find him guilty “beyond a reasonable doubt”. All of you for the last hour and a half were expecting the girl to walk in  that means that you are not certain beyond a reasonable doubt that she was killed. MY CLIENT IS NOT GUILTY!”

Everybody in the court room was screaming at the judge “He cant do that! He played us!” The judge gets up and tells the prosecuting lawyer “this man is right we all second thought ourselves and we are not certain beyond a reasonable doubt, you have 5 minutes to find a reason why this man is guilty”. A young girl from the jury speaks up and she says “This man is guilty although we were all uncertain and most of us were looking at the door, but i was looking at the politician he was the only one not looking at the door. He knew that no girl was walking through the door-he knew he killed her!”

I’m sure you can figure out the rest of the story by your self…For now all i can say is CRAZY! NO?!

In the next blog i will right about some powerful lessons that we can learn for this story if you have your own thoughts leave a comment under this blog..!



Hey, really excited here with my new blog!! Truth be told, I’ve been waiting for this for a long time… a very long time. The reason why i have this passion to reach out to young adults growing up orthodox is because I’ve found that no one really understands teens other than teens.

First i first wanna specify the hardships that i’m referring to and then i would like to go through them one by one… Don’t get me wrong i’m not Mr. know it all. However i was alone for a while in my teen years and if i may say i did manage to stay faithful to my religion, actually acknowledging  the fact there was a problem, not just looking at myself and saying that i’m crazy if i have a problem and god probably hates me for it so it must be that i don’t got nothing wrong with me.

Alright lets start naming them. First of all although it feels like there’s so many and the list is endless but it really boils down to a basic few which is GIRLS  MONEY DRUGS….

Girls is the only problem that is not situational… however money alcohol drugs and any other type of trouble is really dependent on family friends and environment….

Girls is a temptation that’s unavoidable no matter how religious you are, I don’t care if your a priest and your of the religion that its prohibited to get married PRIESTS STILL HAVE THE TEMPTATION OF GIRLS-FACT. THEY DON’T GO A DAY IN THEIR LIVES NOT THINKING ABOUT IT!!!! They might care about stature or their connection with god more than the temptation, which is not a bad thing however its definitely a test and a big one!

Now that we all agree that everyone suffers with this how do we deal with fact that religion doesn’t allow sexual relationships prior marriage??

First thing i wanna say is that living a religious life is the most fulfilling accomplishing and satisfactional life anyone can ever live. We all go through those short moments that were caught up in a temptation or we see the life of everyone  else and we start thinking is this worth it. However those moments are short and we all know deep down that its worth living this way. And it shows us how strong we are.

The basic faith gotta ring in your head daily, as simple as THERE IS A GOD!! What always works for me time after time-I think one line in my head which is “A man can build a house but can’t build a world or a universe” that always reminds me that no matter how little sense it makes but there is a god that preceded us and controls everything! Another thought is that the only one  that can make something from nothing is god we invent but that’s just putting together different variations of existing items that were created by god. God on the other hand creates out of nothing preexisting!

All the above just helps you for your tests not to through you out of religion, but how do we make it easier for you??

Truth is there is no one thing that helps everybody, but this is what helped me. I do think part of the reason why it’s so difficult is because, since we cant have sex before marriage and who gets married before 25-30 before they finish school, get a job, and then have money…It seems like forever till you will be able to fulfill that temptation in a legal way,which truly makes it impossible. Well i realized just this and i made up in my mind since i was a teen that i’m getting married young! Well what can i say i’m 21 and married for 7 months!!! Marriage was always in my foreseeable future, not in 20 years….

I just wanna end this blog with  a very inspirational story which may be able to answer some of your questions that are ringing silently in your head..

There was a 20 year old girl that became religious. Her parents were totally unaffiliated… One day she got hit by a limousine and was in very critical condition. Doctors were going to amputate her leg. The girls parents were in the hospital with her and the dad suddenly starts yelling at his daughter all kinds of things such as how is your god going to answer this! If you really believed in him and he loved you he wouldn’t have done this to you and even if he did it too you he would can take care of it with out amputating your leg…. Obviously the dad was not too fond of the girl becoming religious. The girl answered the dad with just a few words but a powerful few words. She told him “a god that you can understand is not a god”.

What she means to say is that you cant expect to believe in god, and understand everything. If you would understand everything, than he isn’t “godly” hes on the same level as you.The definition of a “HIGHER POWER” is a power that’s on a much higher level than you. By definition that would mean that you can’t relate to him and understand everything he does.

If you TRULY believe and than you keep this story in mind although it wont answer your  questions,  you will be happy without answers because its OK not to understand everything. We don’t have to wrack our brains to make everything make sense……

In future blogs i would like to talk about drugs and alcohol and friends stuff… Comment on he bottom or if you wanna reach me….