Hey, i wanna talk about the lessons we can learn from the previous story…Truth is there are many, but there’s just one that i wanna bring out.
The story was about the lawyer that didn’t defend his client throughout the trial but at the end he came through with his master plan…Tell everybody that the girl is gonna walk in…make them have a reasonable doubt…now they can’t charge him..BRILLIANT! The only problem was that there was a 20 year old girl in the jury that caught on. She was looking at the expression of the accused to see if he believes in the plan the lawyer was laying out for him or was he just playing along to get of innocent.
Its amazing how people can tell you how special you are and how great you are. We can have great lawyers setting up great cases for us, but if you don’t believe it, it’s not gonna come through. Sometimes people can see in you strength that you don’t see in yourself, they even believe that you can get through the tests, but if you don’t realize and believe it yourself your guilty.
In the book Tzidkas Hatzadik it says, part of the commandment of Emuna (complete faith in god) is to believe in yourself too! Part of believing in a king is that he has a nation! We have to believe that were an a slave to the greatest master! The more we believe in our selves the stronger our faith in god is. Its a commandment! And it’s part to the commandment of believing in god.
A person was created with free will meaning he was created to be self motivated! Of course he needs the right education and the right influences, but the end result is it’s up to him to internalize everything everybody is trying put into him just like the lawyer! And in the end all faults and credits are his because it was his decision.
The Jews by the “splitting of the sea were trapped on both sides. They were praying but god said stop praying jump right into the water! God didn’t want hear from them that they believed, he wanted them to show themselves that they believed! God wanted them to do an action that would prove themselves as “believers” because only through that you can have a “splitting of the sea”
Growing up in this generation is very difficult for the kids growing up, and much more for the parents of the kids growing up. Its the parents job to always trust their child and believe in them that’s what’s gonna give them courage to believe in themselves to get through all the hardships of our generation. I know its hard kids never show their appreciation for your trust, but i promise you that they do think about it!
I remember one specific incident where my dad surprised me and took me out in a limousine! We spoke for a while about all the above, and it made an impression on me that he was interested in my hardships too not just telling me don’t do this and don’t do that…The limo he got was from this company http://www.lilyslimo.com/….GORGEOUS! Awesome service…Super nice chauffeur…It really made the moment special!
I believe that by default, children relate to their dads as a man who disciplines …Always trying to hide your wrong doings from them and the truth ids the dad is kinda outta breath from all of it..the worry about what is it gonna lead to next…They don’t have time to just stop and enjoy a couple of moments with their kid…Truth is, if you can forget about all the bad stuff for a moment, and actually go enjoy a couple of moments with him…Shot some hoops with him…Take him along when you play golf….Take him out in a limo..do something that he enjoys…You think my dad gives a flip if he’s riding in a RAV 4 or a stretch Bugatti…
Children need their space for doing wrong…We all go through the trial error process, whether its in business or in school…That’s what makes you successful, makes you realize your weak points, makes you realize whats possible and impossible to do. Now what if i yell at you every time you make a left turn in business by mistake, that you don’t know what your doing..don’t you know its wrong…i tell this you every time..BLAH BLAH BLAH. We all learn better from our mistakes when we KNOW AND FEEL that its a mistake. Kids too would theoretically learn from their mistakes after they experience it…If not for the fact that you give him a yelling that makes him want to do the same thing again to rebel…
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