Just a little introduction on Rabbi Twersky. He is a world renown rabbi/psychologist. He put out a bunch of books worth reading. Here is his wikipedia page http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Abraham_J._Twerski its worth reading up about him!
Hello, my name is Chuck Rapps. I’m reaching out to you because I need advice from someone like you that is experience in the matter for so many years.
I am 21 and I’m married for about half a year by now bH I learned in a good yeshiva till I got married and currently in kollel. Both my wife and I share similar goals. Growing up in the generation that we did, with drugs becoming more accessible just led to more people abusing it. I witnessed many of my close friends and some family members turn to such substances and therefore it has always been my dream to work with these young adults and help them come clean and even eventually open my own religious program. My wife witnessed family members first hand turn to these substances as well.
I didn’t start any schooling yet and I’m reaching out to you now before I start working towards my goal because I want to make sure that I will be successful in the field. Also, I would like to know where to begin my schooling. I am aware that many of the programs are run by users themselves that became clean. I on the other hand never was a user. My wife however, does understand a little more, being that she did go through it with some of her siblings. Is it a necessary tool to have been a user, to really understand the addiction in order to help them come clean?
I recently visited my brother in law in Los Angeles, he’s in the program run by Chabad and I was surprised to see that most of the guys finished the program with out becoming religious. It shocked me that a program that is run by frum people for kids mostly coming from religious families didn’t began to try to encourage any religious aspects as part of the recovery. I even researched it and saw that the head of the program wrote in an article that the main thing they focus on is to get them clean from these substances and it would be nice if they return to religion. Now this shocked me because it’s very nice that they made the person into a functioning human being but what about his religion? Also, isn’t the 12 steps all about spirituality? Doesn’t that mean that a fundamental part of coming clean is returning to religion?
Another thing I noticed on my trip to the Los Angeles rehab was that there was no pool, gym, sports or even basketball court on campus. The boys had lots of free time just to smoke and do nothing. Does rehab have to mean that your trapped in for 6 months? Is it a contradiction to the healing process to have fun activities or even learning trades? What’s wrong with a rehab that’s actually enjoyable? Wouldn’t that mean reducing the rate of people signing themselves out? (besides the fact they needed their roof to be done desperately, when i was there i suggested them a cheap reliable company and i think they even used him! Wow i should get commission from the roofer!
Another thing that disturbs me is that they work on removing addictions as strong as heroin but they still walk out heavy smokers. I do understand that smoking cigarettes is not nearly as dangerous as drugs and one can function mostly normal on cigarettes however, its definitely not as safe as the addiction of caffeine. It definitely reduces the quality and quantity of life why can’t rehab conquer that feat too?
I would love to hear back from you. I know your a very busy person and I understand if you don’t respond but it would be really helpful if I can get my advice from someone like you. My email address is firstname.lastname@example.org
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Thank you for your time,